Shock me shock me

Last night something surprising happened to the husband and I.

It's no secret that we are having a hard time having kids. I'm past the point of being coy about it. If someone asks if we have children or when we are going to have kids I'm very blunt with the fact that we can't and that we most likely will have to do invetro. It's just easier then tiptoeing around the subject. We've talked to the husbands parents about this as well. We've told them how much the procedure is going to cost and the fact that there is no guarantees.

Their suggestion for us: Maybe you should start a website to get donations from people online. Umm not really the road we were wanting to go. And they tell us this AFTER they get a large inheratance from her mother. And they have bought a brand new truck and a camper. Not once did they offer to help us with the procedure. It's been a sour spot with my husband for a long time. He feels that his family doesn't want to be an active part in our life. They only visit when we ask them over. We have scheduled days that we have dinner once a month. And when he sees my family and how close we are it's hurtful for him. But I try to remind him it's a two way street and if he wants his family to be more open and inviting he needs to be as well.

Back to our surprise. My mother in law had called on Sunday wishing me a Happy Birthday but I didn't get to the phone in time. So all I got was a message. I called her back last night to plan a day to get together for Cake and Ice Cream. We stopped having dinner with them once a month due to our overwhelming schedule. So it's been a few months since we've seen them last. At the end of the conversation she mentioned that she had a question for me. She wanted to help with our invetro. I was beyond shocked. I know my husband was too proud to ask his parents and I didn't think it was my place to ask them. So to have her offer money was shocking to say the least. So we talked for a while about what we were trying right now. I told her that we had some money saved up and an estimated time to when we will begin. I couldn't give her an exact amount because we will do everything we can to pay as much as we can. But the fact that she will set aside money for us is wonderful. It also makes me feel guilty that we haven't visited them in a long time. And I think that we will need to start seeing them on more of a regular basis. The monthly dinners will be hard for us, but I think if we stop by every now an then it should do. And maybe if we start setting the example that visits are nice then they will visit us without a formal invitation.