Best of intentions, but not the nicest

I've come to realize that I'm not a very nice person, especially to the person I love the most.

My husband.

Lately I've been pointing out his flaws. I think I do it with the best of intentions but not the nicest way. We've both gotten pretty lazy in our daily "to dos". We are tired when we get home and not really motivated to do much. I get home and watch TV, eat some chips and salsa or any other snack food we have around the house. My husband does the same. But I still point out to him that he should do some work around the house (ie. finish framing the basement, hang some shelves I bought, get the yard ready for cement). What I think I'm really saying to him is that I need to get work done too, that I need to get off my lazy butt and do laundry, scrapbook, finish painting our exercise room or anything else that is productive. But I don't I only point out to him what he's not doing. We've also gotten a bit lazy in our exercise. When we first got married I would go to the gym, he would ride his bike to work. Since moving into our house we haven't done much of anything. I did start going to the gym for the past month. But I only go when my friend goes, so if she doesn't go then I don't and I get into a rut. I want to lose weight and get back into shape. I want to feel better about myself and the way I look in just about anything. But instead of doing that I point out my husbands flaws to him. Again I think I do it with the best of intentions, diabetes runs in his family, I don't want him to end up like his family -- but I don't think I do it in the proper way.

We've been saying for the past year once the exercise room is finished we'll start working out. Well I'm not too sure that's going to fix the problem. I think we need to start eating more healthy and working out on a regular basis. I definitely need to cut out soda from my diet (which is going to be really hard for me). I'm signing up for some classes at the gym so hopefully that will keep me active and on a schedule (today is kickboxing -- more like kicking my ass). I also need to encourage my husband to workout with me instead of point out his midsection by poking it and laughing like the Pillsbury dough boy (see I told you I'm mean).

We are very active people but I think we let life slow us down. We both make excuses not to work out, to eat out, watch too much TV and to basically live a unhealthy lifestyle. We eventually want children and I think to do that we need to be healthy and I want our children to be healthy and not have two parents that watch too much TV and eat a lot of junk food.

This month I'm trying to be a better person.
- I'm going to be nicer to my husband
- We are trying to live on a budget
- Going to follow my workout schedule
- Follow a healthy meal plan.