My posting on blogger have been sparce to say the least. There is a reason but I can't really talk about it right now. It's something we are still trying to figure out and I'm afraid if I post very much on here I'll spill it all. Hopefully I'll be able to post about it in the next few days (fingers are crossed). So until then, just know that I read everyones blogs and try to comment as much as possible.
Christmas still isn't set up in our house. The husband isn't a big fan of "stuff" so it's like pulling nails to get him to bring the decorations out of the basement. But since we are having a Christmas Party with our friends this Saturday the decorations must come out of hiding. I'm excited to have our Christmas Tree out. We've recieved our first snowfall of December (well it may have come at the end of November, but close enough) and it's finally beginning to feel a bit like Christmas.
On a different note... Yesterday I recieved an invitaion to a women in my neighboorhoods Baby Shower. The problem is this is her FIFTH child! Count them 1...2...3...4...5! And she gets another shower? I have a problem with this because her youngest is only 2. It's not like this was a complete surprise 10 years after their last child. NO her husband has been saying from the minute their last child (a boy) was born that he knows there's another little girl waiting for them (they are having a girl) so he was full on planning to have at least one more! The already have 2 girls and 2 boys so it's not like they are short on experience or supplies. It's just annoying because I dont' think it's right to be giving a shower to someone who is just popping out children every 2 years. Is this harsh of me to judge?
That's all I have right now. Back to work.... grrrr.
Tuesday, December 04, 2007
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I know some women have showers after they already have a bunch of kids because by the time they have the 5th one or so, all the stuff they got for the first ones needs to be replaced. Especially if it's been ten years or so. Not to mention, with 5 kids you really don't have the extra money to go out and buy all the crap that comes with having a kid. And I know in our case, we don't have the room to store anything. So, when we have our next one we will be basically starting from scratch again. Not that I'm expecting a shower or anything. It's just that everyone's circumstances are different.
Everyone down here has a shower for every kid, which I think is really weird. Linda even insisted on giving me one for Marisol, which I did not want. I mean, it had only been 10 months since I had Oscar!
So, basically, you're a horrible scrooge. Just suck it up and buy her a gift!!!!
Wow leave it to Pearl to put me in my place. :). Actually I think it's alright that you had a shower Oscar and then one for Marisol you needed to get the girl stuff since you had all the boy stuff. But I just like to bitch and moan about showers.
Sorry, I totally disagree with Pearl.
It.is.tacky.
Utah has lots of showers. Too many. If you want to have a family shower to welcome every baby, then cool. Do it. But to expect friends and neighbors to keep buying gifts and attending showers for multiple births in big families?
Very poor taste.
You have a shower for the first child. You can do it if you have another of a different sex or if you have a long space between them.
But, I'm sorry? To expect a gift just because you have a ton of kids and money is tight?
Tacky.
I think you should only have a shower for the first boy and girl you have since you would need different things for each. After that, well you already have everything you need for any other kid you have so you are just being greedy. I think people nowadays are party hungry and they expect you to get them a present for EVERYTHING! After a while it becomes utterly ridiculous.
I hope you are doing okay and can't wait to hear about what you have going on. I have been thinking of you and sending good vibes your way.
Of course everything should be judge by a case by case situation, buttt, I agree with you, it's ridiculous. So if they want to have a shower, great party on, but don't be offend when people opt out, because enough is enough! That's my 2 cents, anyway.
Um...yeah! I say no baby gifts. I'm pretty sure that what moms really want is just to celebrate the birth of their new baby (er, addition)--not the stuff. I know when Tiny was born, it seemed like no one cared (and then I felt guilty that Sweetie and Bud-uh had all of these fun "celebration" type pre-baby pictures...and Tiny got bupkis)-- even though TINY never would have known the difference--I did.
So don't get her a baby gift, get her a gift card to Chili's or Barnes and Noble...or say "sorry I missed your shower, but do you want to go out for ice cream with just us girls to celebrate?"
-and also remember that the one having the shower isn't the one throwing it (like Pearl said--she had a shower for her 2nd baby even though she didn't want one, she probably felt obligated to go along with it anyway).
Geez, I didn't know I was going to cause such a firestorm with my little opinions!
Just to make myself clear. I DO NOT think that it's ok to have a shower for every kid. I think it's incredibly tacky and self-centered. I was simply trying to defend the poor pregnant lady. And Little Miss makes some very valid points. It's not like she's throwing her own shower (at least, I hope not). I did feel obligated to go along with mine because my family really wanted it.
For every one of my friends that has a baby, whether or not it's her first, I always get her a little present for herself. A gift card is great or maybe some bath stuff.
We only throw showers for the 1st child....unless it is like my future mother-in-law who had 4 kids and after her youngest was 14 YEARS OLD ended up with a surprise in the oven again. We had a shower for her. LOL!
I agree that showers should be reserved for first babies. All babies after should be celebrated in a different way that doesn't imply gifts are necessary. If people want to bring gifts, they will. But the word "shower" means to shower with gifts. Use a different word if it's for a 2nd, 3rd, etc. baby
I think everyone has valid points. The word "Shower" is what really throw me for a loop. I think every baby should be celebrated but maybe with just a party, get together or girls night not a shower.
exactly my point
; )
I say TWO SHOWERS. One for a boy... one for a girl... other than that... your just being GREEDY! RIGHT?
K. I didn't take the time to read ANYONE else's comments. So someone might have already wrote that. THAT IS MY 2 CENTS!
Tootles!
A-HEM?!?!
me tapping my fingers...
waiting...
waiting...
perhaps I didn't clear my throat LOUD ENOUGH for you to hear all the way over there...
AAAAAAHHHHEEEMMM!!
(me raising my eyebrows and rolling my eyes)
It's rude to have a shower and ask for more presents if you already have a kid unless it's been a LONG time.
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